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Ancient wisdom for today (26)

August 26th 2012, Day 26, Proverbs 26

“You grab a mad dog by the ears when you butt into a quarrel that’s none of your business” Proverbs 26:17 (The Message)

A few years ago we were caught in the middle of a whole load of people who very much wanted to know all the ins-and-outs of a very delicate situation involving a third party. Because we refused to talk about it (believing that it was not our place to) some of these people seemed to think that we were misleading them whereas, in fact, we were trying very hard indeed not to involve them. Looking back I see, with regret, just how caught up in it all we became, to the extent that we were stuck reacting to developments as best as we could, rather than being able to take a step back from the whole thing. As a result I am left with the firm conviction that, were I to find myself in the same situation again (God forbid) I would choose to handle a number of things rather differently.

All in all it was not an experience I would choose to relive. However, in the middle of it all, I was faced with just one person out of the crowd who deliberately chose not to ask about the details of the situation, only enquiring whether everything that could be done was being done and whether they could help (without knowing or, crucially, wanting to know any of the details).

That’s a healthy mindset from someone who’s learned the value of today’s proverb!